I’d like to blame my absence on work, life, and more important things, but the truth is this: I got a little tired of blogging. Couple that with some negative feedback and it was enough for me to truly consider quitting blogging altogether.
I’ve never professed to be some fashion “guru” or “know it all”, because I’m not. I know what I like and like what I wear. I never sought out to blog about modest fashion with the desire to promote my own ideas in regards to modesty.
I don’t wear pants. I don’t criticize others who wear pants. With the exception of a watch or a brooch every now and then, I don’t wear jewelry. I don’t wear makeup. There are a lot of things that I don’t wear or do and I have no problem reading other blogs where bloggers portray themselves in things that I wouldn’t buy.
So, when I got several emails and anonymous comments from ladies (I’m assuming) who questioned why I was wearing a brooch, and stated why a modest dress of the day wasn’t really modest, and why was I wearing heels greater than 2 inches, and why did I wear so much color, and who did I think I was to feature people with jewelry as modest beauties, I knew I had to decide if I really wanted to be a “modest fashion blogger”.
Then I realized that 9 negative comments were no comparison to the kind emails I receive from many ladies. A lady from Egypt. Another from Israel. A girl from Florida. A young mother from Texas. All were appreciative of my blog and stated that they were inspired to keep dressing modestly.
I know dressing modestly is only a minor piece in my Christian living. I know there is so much more to living (and life!) than shoes, clothing, accessories, Facebook, Twitter, thrifting, and the latest and greatest in fashion.
I’m not here to dictate to you what you should and should not wear. If you like what I post, great. If you hate what I post, that’s fine too. If you would like to agree to disagree, I’m on board with that.
Excuse me while I reevaluate the direction of MoMoMod.
Now! Today I wore:
*vintage circa 1980s skirt that I picked up at Goodwill for $2.75
*Gap blouse for $8
*Victoria’s Secret shoes (Elizabeth & James knock offs and I think E&J knocked off Brian Atwood or Charlotte Olympia) $59
*Old patent leather belt
Mustard an black is one of many color combinations that I love. What are your favorite color combos? (BTW, the tiny pinprick of a mark that you see in the first picture is a bumblebee. We matched!)
What an amazing Goodwill find! I would have never thought to wear the yellow with leopard print shoes but it totally works.
Don’t get discouraged by the haters your blog totally rocks! X
i swear i need to get to goodwill- this skirt is so great! i’m sorry you’ve had some debbie downer comments/emails about your choices. not that i’m anyone special, but i accept you for who you are, i appreciate your contribution to modest fashion and what it means to you. we all have different ideas of what modest means. hope you have a great week friend!
I can’t believe some people! But some will always have judgement on what others do based on their own narrow views. Pick your head up and keep it moving. I love your blog.
And that gold skirt is amazing! If it weren’t a goodwill find I’d ask you to go back and pick one up for me, LOL.
Well… You KNOW how I feel about “negative nelly’s”!! They can go pound sand!! You are one of Daria and I’s favorite fashion divas!!! Too much COLOR???!!! Didn’t God create the rainbow for cryin out loud??!! Don’t let a few bad eggs stop you from blogging. We look forward to learning from your fashion adventures!!
Wow, I can’t believe people scrutinized your blog in that way, people might have good intentions but if they aren’t going to say something nice then don’t say it at all. The same thing has been going on in my mind since I decided to make some changes in the things I wear, I even thought about changing my blog name and to be honest it is still in my mind, but modesty is much more than clothes. Anyways I won’t get into that subject because it is a touchy one to talk about, everyone had their own convictions and I respect that. I think you are one of the most beautiful modest bloggers and I love everything you wear, I love your shoes and the bright colors you wear, I think you are a great representation of modesty Chandra and so I’m glad you’re still blogging. =)
I love your style! It’s encouraging that you are both modest and fashionable. Don’t stop blogging!
I love your Goodwill find! Keep doing what you’re doing, I had a lot of nasty comments in the beginning when I first started blogging, but I didn’t let it get me down. Even though I remember the hateful stuff to this very day. It sucks that what we remember most is the stuff that stings, instead of all the beautiful, wonderful comments that we receive.
“If you are afraid of criticism. Say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
Goodwill Huntingg
Thanks for the kind words and encouragement!
You have to blog for you. Don’t worry about the haters. Your standard of modesty isn’t going to line up with someones elses. We all have varying degrees of modesty. I for one love your blog and your outfit posts.
I must get into a Goodwill again! Great skirt!
You do a great job! Keep on keeping on!!
Chandra, I wondered where you’ve been. Please stop blogging because of ignorant people. Modesty means different things to different people. Who is one person to say that something you wear is not modest? Keep being yourself!!
Great Goodwill find!
I enjoy your blog. The thing I miss is you don’t post much. Some of the fashion/miscellaneous blogs I read are pointless. IMO, blogs should have a central focus, a mission, and/or support/encourage a particular audience. I find many ‘fashion’ blogs are a ‘look what I wore to work today’. Nothing special. What is the point/purpose? Am I a sewist, thrift/bargain shopper, plus-sized styler, natural hair styler, modest and stylish, etc. I too am a modest dresser-coming from a background of Islam and Pentecostal- it has become a habit. However, my view of modesty is different from yours. Find your niche-it’s not just the outfit-there must be a corresponding method and a message. Keep Posting! I’ll be watching.
I love your style, your blog and your attitude.
Chandra, this is absolutely one of my favorite outfit posts. Your skirt is gorgeous. I love the color and length. The leopard shoes paired with it makes it so femine and sexy. I’m glad you didn’t quit blogging. I truly enjoy reading your blog. It’s one of my favorites. I love that I can relate to something in each of your posts. Thanks for taking the time to share your tips, ideas and style. Don’t stop! =)
P.S.
Hope you start vlogging soon.
Hi Chandra,
I understand how you feel. We all get criticisms—-even the ones who aren’t modest at all, I’m sure. It just stinks when we get guff for trying our best to be upright, without the intention of hurting anyone or making anyone feel bad. Even Christians do that to each other, tearing each other down without doing it in the spirit of building each other up. In our selfishness, we modest striving women criticize each other all the time in the back of our heads, but we need to let those thoughts out into something constructive that can actually help and not break someone apart.
I haven’t been blogging much either, but I’m glad to see you write! I love that skirt and blouse on you!
Wow!! I’m SOOOOOO extremely glad you didn’t stop blogging! I REALLY look forward to your blogs, and most of the time, the only reason I check my blogger is to see if you’ve posted! you’ve inspired me to step outside my “comfort zone” of what i like to wear, and once I did that, I started realizing that there are so many other things that I like, but never had the guts to wear. Now, I just figure, hey, I can wear what I want, because that’s who I am! Thank you so much for you blog!
I’m glad you didn’t quit. I just found your blog and I love it. I too am a fashion blogger (I took down all my old posts because I don’t wear pants anymore and I wanted to show modest fashions), and I have recently given my life back over to God (I’m Pentecostal-I lost my way for a while but thank God I’m back.). I came across your blog because I was looking for modest fashion blogs. Your clothing style is so inspiring. Thank you for keeping it up for people like me who also only wear dresses and skirts.
Chandra, you show modest dressing beautifully! Don’t let those haters stop what you are doing. Keep doing you and those who appreciate you will keep doing what we do…reading your blog!
Just found your blog! As long as you’re happy with how you dress, I don’t see why anyone else would need to criticise it. Whether or not a brooch is “immmodest” is between you and God and isn’t any of their beeswax! Modesty is really subjective. I think you look great. I hope you decide to continue blogging.
Sometimes it’s not until we receive some negativity do we realise how much we impact others positively. As you re-evaluate the direction of your blog, consider the hundreds of positive comments as opposed to the 9 negative ones.
You’ve definitely provided me with considerations of how I dress as a Christian and how I can still be stylish while dressing modestly. I’m really hoping that you consider staying. Best to you always.
I was wondering why I haven’t seen any of your fashion photos posted. Don’t even let those negative 9 comments stop you, you are an inspiration for hundreds of women/girls that appreciate your modest dress up, I know your cousin Cambria does.
I think your blog will encourage many other young christians to follow modesty. It can be hard sometimes and people like you inspire to continue representing Jesus in EVERYTHING we do. Nothing wrong with liking clothes, shoes, purses, watches, scarves, accesories, etc etc. =)
Unfortunately when you blog you open yourself up to the criticism of others, criticisms that some are obviously not willing to put their names too. That being said if you don’t agree with someone’s choices stop reading their blog. Hello! That is a no brainer. I love your blog, your style and you are an inspiration to women that want to dress modestly and fashionably. Thank you for what you do.
I’m SO glad you didn’t quit blogging! The fashion blogging community NEEDS you!!
Uhm, small minds have small opinions and an even narrower view of life. I’m sorry, but it’s true. I don’t mind being outspoken on this because I was born and raised Pentecostal and have come across some pretty self-righteous people. Shame. Love your brother, encourage them. It is GOD’s word that judges, not man. no matter how they try to justify their “concern” or actions and back them with the word of God, I’m sure they couldn’t even shed the faintest of scriptural backing for their spirits.
I have plenty to share.
Pooey on them and YOU, my dear, keep it up. And if they read this and it puts their panties in a wad, I really hope they “anonymously” email me
Oh, honey! There are always haters on blogs, no matter what. I write for some much larger websites, and I will write on really innocuous topics, like why we should drink filtered water or something, and people will write the craziest things in response! Like “Oh, great you want us all to be fat because we SHOULD BE DRINKING SODA?!?!”. It’s nonsensical, and sometimes, it really gets on my nerves and makes me want to throw up my hands. And THOSE aren’t even the comments that tell me how I am going to hell, etc.
The thing is, you know the people who leave those negative? They deserve nothing but our pity. How sad their little lives must be, that the best they can do is try to tear someone down who is sharing her life and hobbies and joy with other people.
Even though I blog about religion, I am not religious at all, but here’s one thing I’ve learned over the years: there is nothing more powerful than forgiveness. I don’t mean that you can’t feel hurt or re-evaluate the direction of your blog, because you totally can – it’s your right! But the best and most empowering thing that you can do is forgive other people for behaving stupidly toward you. As long as they aren’t threatening you, remember that your heart is in a good place, and do your best to let the hurt and anger go. Trust me, I know it can be hard, and I can hold a grudge for YEARS.
Good night! I can’t believe you received comments for not being modest enough. Modest doesn’t equal potato sack. You’re beautiful and your blog is beautiful. Keep up the good work & God bless…
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